Disappointing The Parents

With comments such as, “Back in my day….” disappointing the parents is easy

disappointing our parents

Mom and dad arrived with plenty of gear for a road trip.

They’re here. Camped out in my bedroom while I bunk out on the couch. (Apologies to anyone crashing on my couches in advance.) We’ve settled into the standard Larry-MarySue-Tim triangle dynamic that includes asking what each of wants to do, asking again, getting distracted by another thought, making a plan, then revisiting the topic all over again. Somehow, I need to sneak a video camera into these discussions so that I can show you the flavor of what is actually transpiring, but rest assured a lot of time is actually being spent in discourse on this vacation. Which is nice because it’s HOT. And a lot of it has to do with Tim’s employment situation and monetary resources… I’m throwing everything I can at them to distract them, but they just aren’t taking this vacation seriously. And, yes, I DO understand the irony in that statement.

But, we do have at least the skeleton of a plan while they are out here, including: golf today with Dad, the Reagan Museum tomorrow, more golf on Friday, then the Fiesta Hermosa fair combined with visiting the U.S.S. Iowa, Wisconsin football on Saturday and a Pink Floyd cover band before they head out on Monday or Tuesday. Some of them are stuff I want to do and some of them are things Mom and Dad want to do and ALL of it is situated around the daily resume dump, job search and company building with mom walking by my desk on trips to the kitchen “to see what I’m up to…” It’s like being a kid at home again.

In the time they’ve been here, I’ve been confronted by the feeling that their only son is not as accomplished as he should be at this point in his life. I’m certainly nowhere close to where my sister is. And, according to my personal “futurecast” timeline, I am way off course! And yes, I did do a blog piece once on the “Oulda’s’” a while back. And no, I don’t follow my own advice. This column is for YOU, my friends, not me.

But, I don’t think that I am alone in disappointing our parents as a generation. I am sure that there was a blacksmith somewhere in the 17th century whose mother and father mentioned that things were different in their day… EVERY generation has the chance to be disappointing the parents. And, don’t even get me started on Gen Y or the “Millennials.” Sometimes, I am truly glad that I didn’t have kids that grew up in the last 10-15 years.

So, with six more days left here I’m doing my darnedest to avoid pertinent questions, teach them how to use the remote without screwing up all my settings, give them things to do and write this blog, which they didn’t know I was still writing. Hmmm.

Which is why it sucks today. Sorry.

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What’s Bugging Me! Ranting Like a 43 Year-Old

I’m getting all the rants out only days before Mom and Dad take over my pad…

With Ma and Pa Barley driving Hell-bent for Hermosa Beach next week, I thought it might be a good idea to get out all the things that are bothering me before they get here. Actually, “Hell-bent” for retirees in their late 60’s and (now) 70’s is setting the “‘ol cruise control at 70 and using traditional maps to find Old Route 66 and stop at every Presidential Museum from Chicago to LA).

UPDATE: As of yesterday, my parents had made Kansas with a plan “to get to Wichita maybe and find a place to stay. Or something like that. We don’t know for sure.” I love my parents.

So, to lighten the mood around my one bedroom apartment which will be housing three individuals for almost a week, I’m getting it all out.  Airing the ire that is stuck in my head. Because none of my friends listen to me anymore, you’re my sounding board for what’s been stuck in my craw: Continue reading

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My Parents’ Route 66 Road Trip. Destination? My place.

Not even 2500 miles and an old, aging Route 66 can keep my retired parents from taking a cross country road trip to see me…

Larry and MarySue's road trip - expected route

The Barleys are going to try to follow the old Route 66. And look for that world’s largest ball of twine.

It’s been almost five or six years since Larry and MarySue Barley have made their way out West far enough to see their eldest child and only son. My sister and her fantastic family have commandeered most of my parents’ time as they are geographically closer (approx. a mile or two), and I’m pretty sure they like my sister more than me. At this point in my life, I think that the only way that I’m going to get my parents to visit more often is to get married and have kids.

(Sorry, had to step away before I spat my coffee out on my keyboard from laughing so hard.) Continue reading

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Adventures and Musings at the California DMV field office

It’s always an adventure when you head to the DMV…

Time to update the Driver’s License (L-R oldest to newest)

This was my second trip to the DMV field office in Hawthorne, California this week. Fortunately for me, I mistakenly made an appointment on Tuesday at the Inglewood office but showed up at the Hawthorne office. I say fortunately because the ENTIRE California DMV statewide system had a meltdown on one of the hottest days of the year in the state on Tuesday. Apparently, it was the fault of the DMV hardware. Honestly, if you have ever registered a car in California, you know how much it costs ($300+ when I first registered my Mustang in ’06). Can you tell me that some of that can’t go to a system that’s designed in THIS century? It’s amazing that we still live in a state where the backbone of California car culture goes down, but porn sites work just fine come Hell or high water. Or so I’ve heard. I’ve never been in Hell or high water… Continue reading

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The Fall TV Schedule – Who Gets The Hook First?


 

Fall TV: The TV schedule is not just baseball and “reality” on the networks anymore.

Fall TV schedule for the networks

Network schedule. Or where the vanilla go to play.

My TV schedule is about to get a lot more cluttered. It’s nearing the beginning of the traditional fall TV season. You know, the time of year that Americans huddle around their TV’s and begin to pack on the winter insulation. As my summer favorites – “Suits,” “Burn Notice,” “Breaking Bad,” “Wilfred” and “Falling Skies,” (all of which are NOT on network TV, by the way) for example – finish up their summer seasons, and Labor Day comes and goes, it’s time to reset the DVR. Some of my favorite shows were renewed (“Community” and “30 Rock” among them) for short seasons this year. A few of my old favorites are unfortunately clinging to life (“The Office”). And, there are some new shows that I am looking forward to checking out. Continue reading

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